Everyone deserves a safe environment

Our Spill the T Discord guild rules help ensure everyone has a safe and fun environment.
All members and staff are required to follow the rules when participating in our Discord guild.

Rules may change at any time without notice. Please check back regularly.

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Last Updated January 22, 2020.

Rules

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The bot !staff command for reporting members:

If a member is violating the rules, either in the guild or with you in a Direct Message, you can report the member confidentially with the staff.
:small_orange_diamond: To do so, first make sure you have clear and convincing evidence. Take screenshots (ideally of the entire relevant conversation and not just specific messages), audio recordings from the voice channel, etc, of all relevant information. Never assume messages will still be there when staff investigate; members might delete them at any time.
:small_orange_diamond: Send the bot command !staff. The bot will create a private text channel between you and the staff and mention you in it.
:small_orange_diamond: In that channel, explain your report and post relevant evidence. You can also use the !report username/mention/snowflakeID command in there to make a bot report (example: !report Sector Seven`). In the event staff cannot immediately attend to the matter, if 3 members !report the same person in a 60-minute period, the bot will auto-mute them until staff investigate. Do not abuse this command or you will be disciplined for bot abuse.
:small_orange_diamond: Please be respectful and cooperate with staff, especially if staff ask you for further clarification or information. They have to reach the 70% certainty threshold in order to take action beyond a warning.
:small_orange_diamond: Do not pester staff and ask them what was done nor beg them to do something (such as banning someone). Staff have their own policies and procedures they must follow. Staff are, however, happy to let you know when the matter has been addressed (or if they decide the evidence was not convincing enough to be able to do anything at the moment). They do not, however, have to tell you what exactly was done.
:diamonds: We cannot take action against anything that happens in a different guild or on a platform other than Discord.

The bot !conflict command for text channel fights/conflicts:

 

Staff cannot always be around to immediately intervene on conflicts. There is a handy tool in the bot that allows you to ask the bot to intervene when members in a text channel are causing drama and violating the rules.
:small_orange_diamond: Just send the !conflict bot command in the same text channel the conflict is happening.
:small_orange_diamond: If 3 or more members use the conflict command in a 15-minute period, the bot will step in:

  • First, the bot will mute the channel for 5 minutes and post instructions for an easy breathing exercise to help calm down.
  • Then, the bot will unmute the channel and ask all those involved in the conflict to state, in their own words using respectful “I” statements, what the conflict is, how it makes them feel personally, and what they need for the conflict to be put to rest.
  • Next, the bot will ask involved members to read each other’s responses and empathize. Then, they should explain what they understand the other members’ perspectives to be. Members are asked to politely and respectfully clarify each other’s misunderstandings, if any show up.
  • Finally, the bot asks everyone to provide suggestions for each other and develop a plan of action to resolve the conflict and prevent it in the future.

:warning: When conflict resolution is active in a text channel, not cooperating with the instructions of the bot, or attempting to bring up the matter somewhere else, will result in discipline. Also, abuse of the !conflict command is a violation of the rules.
:warning: The bot’s antispam system is more strict when conflict resolution is active in a text channel.
:slight_frown: Sorry, but the bot is not capable of conflict resolution in a voice channel. Simply report the matter to staff as explained under “reporting members”. Mute/deafen yourself or leave the voice channel if you have to in order to avoid getting emotional.

Although most rule violations in our guild will not result in a permanent ban unless the member has reached 0 HP from repeated offenses, the following actions / behaviors can result in an immediate permanent ban without warning from the guild:

  • Raiding or threatening to raid the guild. This includes spamming during a level 3 raid as declared by the bot.
  • Trying to get around a user who has blocked you by using other users or multiple accounts.
  • Posting pornography or violent content, including artwork, which includes anyone (including fictional characters) believed to be under the age of 18 years.
  • Posting content that infringes on copyright, and one or more of the following is true:
    • You claimed the content as your own.
    • You did not credit the original creator/artist or provided the wrong citation, and failed to correct the discrepancy within 48 hours of being warned.
    • The copyright holder reported the infringement.
  • Promoting or glorifying self harm or suicide, or threatening / encouraging people to harm or kill themselves.
  • Posting extreme gore in celebration of violence or sadistic pleasure, or posting animal cruelty.
  • Posting information about a member that could lead to their financial or physical harm, whether truthful or not, or threatening to do so.
  • Engaging in, or encouraging, criminal activity.
  • Posting content out of revenge and in attempt to degrade someone, such as revenge porn.
  • Posting any content that could harm Discord or the computers/devices of those who access the content, such as viruses. This includes using self-bots or non-official Discord clients, such as BetterDiscord.
  • Trying to steal accounts (such as asking for account passwords), whether they are Discord accounts or any other accounts or devices members have.
  • Sharing cheat codes or any program meant to bypass intentional limitations on software or games.
  • Sharing or making publicly known bugs or security flaws in any software, accounts, devices, or games that advantage those who exploit it.
  • Using more than one account in the guild for one person.

Further Explanation

  • Do not engage in criminal activity in the guild.
  • Also, do not threaten to engage in criminal activity, nor encourage other members to engage in criminal activity.

We will report criminal activity to Discord and local law enforcement and could also issue a permanent ban from the guild.

Reason for the Rule

Spill the T does not condone criminal activity in any way, shape, or form, as it causes significant harm to individuals and communities. Furthermore, Spill the T could be shut down by Discord if we do not ban criminals.

Further Explanation

  • Do not post irrelevant content; use the correct channels.
  • The bot has an antispam system and will mention you if you are seen spamming. Continuing will result in automatic antispam discipline.
  • Some self roles are mentionable, such as event subscriptions. Do not mention these roles unless you have authorization from staff to do so.
  • Open advertising, including posting Discord invite links, is prohibited.
    • You can use the !ad bot command to purchase advertising using Yang (guild currency).
    • If you are a content creator for a podcast that is LGBT focused, LGBT-ally focused, or LGBT positive, please let staff know and we can partner you up.
  • The staff reserve the right to delete invite links at any time at their discretion, especially if they feel an invite link is responsible for a raid attack.

Reasons for the Rule

  • We like things to be organized. It is harder to carry conversations when topics are discussed in the wrong channels.
  • The bot’s antispam system ensures the guild cannot be de-railed, even when no staff are online at the moment.
  • Advertising is generally considered unwanted. You must earn the privilege to advertise by earning Yang, which is earned by being active in the community.
  • People often join a guild just to create invite links to enable a raid to take place. If you leave the guild, all of your invite links will also be deleted. We will also delete links if we notice people involved in a raid attempt joined via your invite.

Further Explanation

  • No gossip, personal attacks, nor harassing, threatening, blackmailing, manipulative, obscene / vulgar behavior.
  • No invalidating others’ emotions nor experiences. Everyone goes through their own different challenges.
  • No “yucking” other people’s “yums” (talking down about something someone else likes). We all have different preferences.
  • Respect everyone’s boundaries. If someone says no, back off, do not argue, and do not ask them again.
  • Respect everyone’s intellectual rights, including those who are not in the guild. This means give credit to the original creators for any content you post in the guild that is not your own, such as but not limited to music/soundtracks, videos, artwork, photography, software, and documents.
  • You may not copy nor re-distribute any content directly posted in the guild which the rights belong to one or more of the members (whether current or past), or to Spill the T, without their documented permission.
  • Abide by the following rules regarding sending DMs to members:
    • If a member has the “DMs: Open” role, you may DM them.
    • If a member has the “DMs: Closed” role, you may not DM the member for any reason nor ask to DM the member.
    • If a member has the “DMs: Ask in Guild First” role, or if they do not have any DM roles, you must first ask the member in the Spill the T guild by mentioning them before you can DM them.

Reasons for the Rule

  • Everyone deserves a safe, enjoyable atmosphere here. When members are disrespected, the entire community is negatively impacted.
  • Members have the right to be a part of this community without unsolicited DMs being sent to them.

Further Explanation

  • Don’t act creepy, make people uncomfortable, nor harass people for sexual interests.
  • Do not engage sexually with anyone under 18 years old (no exception, not even for ignorance of their age), nor post pornographic content (including artwork) of anyone under 18 years old.
    • If you are under the age of 18, posting nude/porn pictures of yourself is also in violation of this rule.
  • Do not post extremely sensitive / triggering / graphical content outside of NSFW channels.
  • NSFW content is only permitted in NSFW channels (if we have them) and channels beginning with “support-” in the name. Staff may have a limit as mentioned in the topic or pinned messages as to what content specifically is permitted in each channel.

Engaging sexually with, or posting NSFW content (including artwork) containing, persons under 18 years old is a bannable offense.

Reasons for the Rule

  • Members have the right to be a part of this community in an atmosphere free from toxic sexuality. We do not welcome pedophiles, rapists, sex predators, “f**kbois”, nor those solely looking for sex or to sexually objectify people. Such people pose a legitimate danger to our members’ safety, and frankly, poison the joy and beauty out of sex and dating for others.
  • A lot of our members have had traumatic pasts / events. Very sensitive topics should not be discussed in a public channel and instead taken to a private opt-in one (via the bot !support command). Such topics may trigger flash backs and other unwanted emotions in others that are detrimental to their therapy and healing process.
  • We are not a porn nor a dating server. We do not want to be bombarded with indecent or vulgar content.

Further Explanation

  • There are no excuses for excluding someone based on identity. Religious beliefs are also not an excuse.
  • Refer to others by their correct pronouns on their bot !profile (use “they” as a gender neutral default if you do not know their pronouns).
  • Do not invalidate nor joke about people’s identities.
  • No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, or discrimination of any kind based on identity.
  • Do not use microaggressions nor generalizations about a group.
  • Do not speak on behalf of a group you do not identify with (for example, if you are White, do not make claims about what LatinX people think/feel unless you refer specifically to a LatinX individual’s experiences)
  • No derogatory behavior, jokes, nor attacks.

To clarify: expressing disagreements to people’s opinions is not in violation of this rule (we still believe in the freedom to express civilized opinions). What would be in violation of this rule is attacking, invalidating, or making false assumptions about people based on how they identify (we would rather you admit that you do not understand).

Reasons for this Rule

  • We are a transgender and LGBT focused community. We wish to foster an environment that welcomes everyone regardless of identity so long as they do not pose a threat to our members’ safety. We do not tolerate bigotry, prejudice, nor perpetuating oppression. There is a difference between an opinion and prejudice; prejudice is harmful and enables violence.
  • Joking about people’s identities or experiences is just as harmful as saying it with a serious tone; you are giving the impression identities / experiences and the people they apply to are not valid, are nothing but something to laugh about, and should not be taken seriously.
  • Generalizations make people believe something about everyone in a group even though it doesn’t apply to everyone in that group. It is a way to justify bigotry and violence against an entire group. We do not tolerate that. Generalizations were responsible for very dangerous events in history, such as World War II and the Holocaust.
  • Microaggressions may seem harmless, but when many people spread them especially as a part of culture or society, it encourages violence and discrimination. We do not tolerate that.
  • If you are not a part of a minority, you do not have the freedom to speak on behalf of that minority. You cannot possibly understand their struggles if you have never been subjected to them. To try and speak on behalf of them is to assert your power/privilege over them and invalidate their experiences. You are also perpetuating the idea that they cannot speak for / stand up for themselves.

Further Explanation

Violating Discord’s Terms of Service or Community Guidelines warrants being reported to Discord. This could also result in a permanent ban from the guild or from Discord.

Reasons for this Rule

We are a server on Discord. By using Discord, we are all subject to Discord’s terms, otherwise they have the freedom to shut us down / ban us.

Further Explanation

  • Do not dox people nor share DMs or messages from restricted text channels without documented consent.
  • Do not share other people’s personal info, such as where they live, government issued IDs, credit cards, sex lives, etc.
  • Do not even pretend to share such information about another member by making the information up and claiming it to be the info of another member; we do not have the resources to confirm whether or not the information shared is truthful. Therefore, we will discipline whether or not it is true.

Sharing of any information which could lead to a person’s physical harm, identity theft, or financial theft, is a bannable offense.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Members have the right to be a part of this community without personal information about them being shared publicly without their consent. It is a violation of respect and privacy, and it subjects members to possible harm by others.
  • If you can share false private information about someone, you can also share real private information about someone. We don’t want to take those risks because member safety is important to us. Discipline will be issued for sharing private information about other members without consent, even if the information is false. The action is what matters, not the truthiness.

Further Explanation

  • Report bugs, and provide comments/suggestions/disputes, via the !staff command.
  • Do not abuse the bot, such as making a bunch of channels with the !staff or !support commands.
  • Do not try to find loopholes in the rules in order to avoid discipline for an action you committed that caused hurt or disruption in the community.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Bot bugs do not give you the right to use it to your advantage and create problems.
  • If you have the motivation to try and loophole the rules, you have the motivation to cause harm to the community in such a way to avoid consequences or to blackmail staff. We do not tolerate that.

Further Explanation

  • Do not use language that a majority of the general public would find offensive.
  • Do not use language intended solely to provoke emotions in other people or start drama.
  • Mild cursing is allowed as long as it follows the above two points and is not excessive.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Verbal abuse is real and causes real psychological harm to individuals. We will not tolerate that.

Further Explanation

  • Do not shout loudly nor play music loudly through the voice channels.
  • Mute your microphone when making adjustments.
  • Do not have loud or distracting background music or other noises.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Hearing loss is a permanent condition. No one deserves to be subjected to that, nor to the shock or annoyance value, of loud audio.
  • Everyone deserves to be able to be heard when in a voice conversation.

Further Explanation

  • Whenever you post content that is not in English, please provide an English translation with your post as a majority of us are native English speakers.
  • The English translation must be accurate to the best of your abilities.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Most of us are native English speakers / readers, and many of us cannot understand a language other than English.
  • Some people use another language to say something very harmful and try to keep it under the staff radar.
  • Non-English content takes longer for our staff to moderate.

Further Explanation

  • If a staff member tells you to do or not to do something in regards to the rules, obey the staff even if you disagree with them.
    • The one exception is if, by doing what the staff requested, you would be violating Discord’s Terms of Service. In that case, civil disobedience is permitted.
    • If you do not want to obey the staff/rules, remember that participation in this guild is optional (you can stay or leave as you wish) and a privilege (we may ban you at our discretion).
  • Respectfully bring up disagreements to the staff via the !staff command.
  • Do not pretend to be a staff member.
    • Do not take what someone says as official / staff stance if they do not have the “Staff Member” role.
    • It is acceptable to respectfully remind other members of the rules when they are out of line. But do not claim yourself as a staff member if you’re not, and do not threaten discipline, make orders, nor make decisions about the rules if you’re not staff.
  • Do not report members to staff unless you have clear and convincing evidence the member violated the rules (take screenshots / voice channel recordings!)

Reasons for this Rule

  • The staff help maintain order and peace in the community. Do what they say without argument even if you disagree, otherwise you waste their time and distract them from being able to maintain a good atmosphere for others. You can bring disagreements up privately with staff, but you must still follow their orders unless told otherwise or if it violates Discord’s terms.
  • Pretending to be a staff member confuses other members and may make them think someone is staff when they actually are not.
  • Reporting members without evidence wastes the time of staff and prevents them from being able to maintain a good atmosphere for others.

Further Explanation

  • Recognize when a conflict of interest is present, such as when your best friend or significant other is called into question for their behavior. Delegate these matters to another staff member when possible.
  • Do not discipline members unless you have clear and convincing evidence the member violated a rule.
  • Do not use your staff status as a means to blackmail or manipulate members to do things for your own personal benefit.
  • Staff members must follow the rules just like regular members do; you are not above the rules.
  • Try to help members avoid violating the rules; don’t “just be a bad cop”. Our goal is to educate.

Reasons for this Rule

  • All members deserve to have equitable discipline for their actions that does not depend on how they identify nor what their relationships are with staff.
  • Being a staff member does not entitle you to break the rules. By breaking the rules, you are setting a bad example for the community and showing them that following the rules is not important.
  • You do not get to discipline members based on your own opinion / will. Every staff member has different opinions and violates members’ right to equitable discipline. There are moderation policies in place to ensure members are treated equally for similar violations and are not unfairly disciplined.
  • Being a staff member is not a reward nor an entitlement; it is a voluntary responsibility to help keep order and safety. You are still a regular member and a human being just like everyone else at the end of the day.
  • Members deserve to know what they did wrong and why it was wrong / harmful to the community. Education is key to helping members get on the right track.

Further Explanation

  • You may only have one Discord account in our guild for every physical person.

If you have multiple accounts in the guild and you earn discipline on at least one of them, all of your accounts will be banned. It is considered disciplinary evasion.

Reasons for this Rule

  • It is hard from a moderation standpoint to keep track of people who use multiple accounts. It also enables people to evade blocks other members have put on them, as well as bans and other restrictive discipline. We don’t allow that.

Further Explanation

  • A self bot is a program that authenticates with your personal Discord account and posts messages or does actions on your behalf.
  • Self bots are against Discord’s terms.
  • Using BetterDiscord or any script outside of the official Discord client is also against Discord’s terms and our rules.
  • Please contact staff if you want us to implement a new feature in our guild bot. There is no guarantee we will do it, though.

Using a self bot or modified Discord client (such as BetterDiscord) in our guild is a bannable offense.

Reasons for this Rule

  • It is against Discord’s Terms of Service. However, we made this its own rule because it is commonly misunderstood, and a lot of people do not know this violates Discord’s Terms.
  • Self Bots are considered spam. Plus, we don’t know if you’re using the self bot to “mine” the server (save your own copy of all the messages etc for your own personal use or exploitation).
  • The above also applies to using non-official Discord clients such as BetterDiscord. BetterDiscord has scripts and plugins that allow you to do various things, such as mine a server and save all its messages for your own personal use.

Further Explanation

  • New members are asked to send their first message within 7 days of joining. Current members are asked to not go more than 30 days without sending any messages.
  • Members who fall outside of the above conditions will be given the “inactive” role by the bot until they send a message. They will also periodically and randomly be mentioned by the bot as long as they are inactive.
  • Staff may kick inactive users out of the guild (without discipline) at any time at their discretion.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Sometimes people will join a guild just to gather information / messages to use against the guild or to plan a raid attack. To help deter this, we will kick new members who do not say anything within 7 days of joining, or non-new members after 30 days of sending their last message.
  • Members who exist in a guild but do not contribute any discussion are not benefiting the community in any way; there’s no value to them being in the guild.
  • We do not believe in actual discipline for this rule because we want members to have the freedom to come back if they decide they want to be active.
  • Discord has a limit to the number of guilds you can be in. We’re doing you a favor by kicking you from a guild you’re not involved in.

Some channels will have rules of their own in the channel topic or pinned messages. Violating channel rules is in violation of this guild rule.

Further Explanation

  • All usernames/nicknames, avatars, statuses, and !profile information are subject to the rules.
  • Blank usernames/nicknames are not allowed.
  • Usernames or nicknames which contain special characters that either make it hard for people to mention you using a standard US keyboard, or make it hard to read what your username is, are not allowed.

Reasons for this Rule

  • We get it, some people feel we should not moderate things you control on your own account rather than exclusively in our guild. However, avatars, usernames, nicknames, etc are publicly visible to everyone in our guild. We must enforce the rules on those as well to maintain the safety and integrity of the guild (and to prevent loopholes such as people “sending inappropriate messages” via nickname or status changes).
  • Blank usernames/nicknames make it hard for people, especially staff, to mention or identify you.
  • Special characters are annoying and also make it hard for us to mention or identify you. Special characters can also break things, such as the bot or the website.

Further Explanation

  • Please remember we are not licensed professionals; this guild should not be a means to address emergency crises nor seek professional services. Please contact an emergency number, hotline, doctor, or therapist instead.
  • Please do not bring up recent/imminent sensitive matters publicly in the guild, such as suicidal/homicidal idealization, recent abuse/trauma/rape, or recent self harm. Instead, use the !support command and address them in the private support channel created which other members can opt-in via bot instruction.
  • Demanding support, guilt-tripping those who do not offer support, or using manipulative means to try and force support is against the rules.
  • Do not glorify self harm, abuse, suicide, nor homicide. When you use the !support command, you are seeking support for these matters, not to brag about them.
  • Do not use self harm, abuse, suicide, nor homicide as a manipulative tool to blackmail people into doing things for you nor to guilt other people.
  • Support channels are marked NSFW as a trigger warning to others. NSFW content is allowed in support channels if it is directly relevant to the support and follows all NSFW rules.
  • Support channels are automatically deleted by the bot after 48 hours of inactivity.

Reasons for this Rule

  • A lot of our members have had traumatizing things happen to them. If very sensitive matters are publicly discussed, members may have flashbacks or other harmful emotions return to them and impede on their recovery process.
  • We also do not want to outright forbid such topics from our guild; we want people to be able to support each other. So a compromise was a bot command that creates an opt-in NSFW channel to discuss very sensitive issues.
  • We cannot always offer support, especially if everyone is not qualified, does not have the understanding or professional know-how, or is not in a good enough emotional mind to be able to offer support. Support is not something anyone is entitled to. So do not demand it.
  • Portraying harmful acts such as suicide and self-harm in a positive or bragging light is very detrimental to our community. It is essentially encouraging others to do the same and commit very dangerous acts. We do not tolerate that.
  • People legitimately struggle with suicidal thoughts or addictive self-harm behaviors. To use those as a weapon of personal benefit is to invalidate those who actually struggle with these things and want to move on from it. It also shows disrespect to others and jeopardizes the safety of others. We will not allow it.

Further Explanation

  • If you post false / satirical information, links, or articles, you are expected to state it is false / satirical immediately.
  • Any false/satirical information posted must not violate other rules, especially rule 3 regarding respecting members.

Reasons for this Rule

  • It is easy to convince people to believe something that is not true, even unintentionally. We require you specify when information you give is false or satirical so people know not to take it as fact.
  • But we still do not allow spreading false rumors at all about other members because that is disrespectful and harmful.

Further Explanation

Due to the regulations of broadcast radio, the following is strictly enforced in the radio show voice channel:

  • You may not use, in any derivative or context, the words shit, piss, fuck, cunt, cocksucker, motherfucker, nor tits.
  • You must not say anything that appeals to an average person’s prurient interest (degrading/unhealthy interest in sex), describes or depicts sexual conduct in a patently (clearly to the public) offensive way, and, as a whole, lacks serious literary, political, scientific, educational, or artistic value.
  • You must not describe sexual or excretory organs or functions in a patently offensive way.
  • You may not use grossly offensive language that is considered a public nuisance.
  • You may not use derogatory statements, words, or phrases.
  • You may not use blasphemy.
  • You may not use defamation without stating proven facts, especially towards Spill the T, WWSU Radio, Wright State University, or their entities.

See https://www.fcc.gov/consumers/guides/obscene-indecent-and-profane-broadcasts

Violation of this rule, even on the first offense, can and will result in the immediate and indefinite ban from the radio show voice channel as well as other additional discipline; you can no longer participate in the Spill the T radio show.

Reasons for this Rule

  • Since the radio show broadcasts over FM radio, it is subject to the rules of the Federal Communication Commission (FCC). A violation could result in the radio station being fined $325,000. We will strictly enforce radio rules when doing a radio show in the voice channel.

Please check out our Disciplinary System page to learn about what actions we might take for violating the rules.